We all have hard times in our lives and the last couple of years have been tough for a lot of people. That’s why it’s important to have tools to get yourself through life’s crises. Knowing how to deal with uncertainty and challenges can help you immensely in overcoming difficulties of any kind. Whether that be in your personal or professional life. 

We all have the power to decide how to live our lives. Are you going to surrender after the first hurdle on your way or are you going to step up and be stronger than you ever thought you could be?

My story of overcoming the challenges of life

After my third divorce, I had just about given up on men and ever having a loving, lasting relationship. I could feel the soft beating of my heart in pain. I decided right then and there I had had enough. I realised I kept attracting the same kind of men who were fun and exciting but had major issues around marriage and what it meant. My plan was to change my taste in men. I did and now have happily been with my current partner for over 15 years. 

I used our personal development tools to get through it and make the change and I’d like to share them with you. Whether that is in terms of financial security for yourself and your family, or improving your life in general for the sake of your own well-being.

But let me continue with my story and show you why personal development played such a big part in our lives. 

After finally being in a healthy relationship with a loving partner, life was different for me. In 2008 I was a real estate investor and I had multiple properties which were all highly leveraged. I had a beautiful, expensive home of four acres. 

However, when the economy went down and interest rates went up, my cash flow tanked. I could no longer afford my high flying lifestyle. I was overextended and went down in flames. Lost my house, all my equity, everything I had built up for retirement in the last 20 years. My life as I knew it was over.

Starting over and creating our dream life

The most important thing was that we still had each other, and that was enough for us to step back on our feet and start over. Since we had to start our lives anew again, my partner and I decided to fulfil our lifelong dream and move to a Caribbean Island. We took everything we had and made the move. 

We were supposed to be retiring here and instead had to go back to work.  We took our chances and managed to figure it out. We lived in a $400 a month apartment while we recovered.

It took us ten years but we are now back to better than where we were before the financial crash, and more. Now we live in paradise and are debt free in a home with no mortgage. We rebuilt the equity we had.

I’d like to share the steps with you to deal with any crisis and make the choices so you can be better off than you were. You may not be able to control the environment but you can control yourself and your choices

6 steps to deal with crisis and improve your life

  1. See the issue as it is but don’t make it worse than it is. Our minds tend to go to the worst possible scenario. We think the sky is falling and want to give up. Chunk it down and deal with one issue at a time. 
  2. Tell yourself the truth and deal with it.   Commit to change it. That might not feel good at the moment but it can help you make the necessary change. The alternative is to keep fighting it and be miserable. It’s up to you!
  3. Have a vision of the future. For example, I don’t care if the economy is bad, I can find something good about it. There are businesses that thrive in good times and in bad. Always try to find the positive in a situation instead of focusing on the negative. 
  4. Find a role model. I’m no Tony Robbins with his 31 companies and billions of dollars but I can learn new skills, get a strategy and find work life balance. Having someone to look up to that you can use as motivation and inspiration to keep going is crucial for your success.
  5. When you find a way to meet other people’s needs, you will get what you need. You can even model yourself in the way you want to be. Ask yourself, what was a tough time in the past and how did you turn it around? How are you better off today than you were before?
  6. Surround yourself with positive people who support you in your journey. Make new friends if you have to. With online communities the way they are, anything is possible. Find your tribe. 

Are you ready to also improve your life?

I believe in you and that you can come out of any situation better, no matter the circumstances. You have what it takes within yourself to overcome any challenges that life puts in front of you, you just need to have the right strategy and mindset to deal with it. I trust in your abilities and believe that you can do it.

I’d love to hear from you and get to know you better. What’s your story?